Treatment for sexual dysfunction

It is always difficult to accept that you may have a sexual problem and even more difficult to discuss it with a stranger. It is always reassuring to know that you are not alone and that, with the exception of some medical conditions, treating the underlying cause of anxiety can mean a return to a full and satisfying sex life.

You will find that I have a relaxed, informal manner and the experience to deal comfortably with sensitive issues - If you have avoided dealing with your problem because you are just too embarassed to talk about it then come along and meet me for a free initial consultation.... You won't be judged or ridiculed, you will be taking the first step to taking back control of your life!

Pure Hypnoanalysis is the most successful treatment for non-physical sexual dysfunction.

Some of the more common sexual problems include

Premature Ejaculation By far the most common problem - some sources claim that it affects between 30 and 40 per cent of men at some time in their life. Put simply, premature ejaculation just means reaching a climax before you want to. Sometimes, the condition is so bad the man can't have sex because he ejaculates before he can get into his partner's vagina. This can be devastating for a man's self-confidence. There are many psychological reasons for premature ejaculation including anxiety about performance, being out of practice, even masturbation guilt

Erectile Dysfunction or Impotence Being unable to achieve or sustain an erection that's hard enough or lasts long enough to complete your chosen sexual activity satisfactorily. Many men never seek help either because they are not aware that help is available or they are too embarrassed to admit that they have a problem. There are many physical conditions that can lead to erectile difficulties and medical help should always be sought to rule out illness as a cause - some of these include

• Diabetes
• High blood pressure
• Coronary heart disease
• Surgery (e.g. pelvic)
• Spinal cord injury
• Hormonal problems
• Neurological conditions such as multiple sclerosis

Once you have ruled out physical causes the most usual reason for impotence is stress and anxiety, including 'performance anxiety'. This can be due to relationship problems, maybe even a new relationship, general stress or anxiety at home or work, sexual boredom, even a leftover belief from childhood that sex is somehow dirty or wrong. If you are able to achieve and sustain an erection during masturbation but not when sex involves a partner then the problem IS anxiety and the fastest and best treatment is Pure Hypnoanalysis.

Vaginismus The involuntary tightening of the vaginal muscles leading to painful sex, occasionally making penetration impossible usually due to fear, feelings of guilt or past sexual trauma. Even though you may want to have a full sexual relationship, something is holding you back and causing the intense anxiety that makes a pleasurable sexual experience seem like an impossibility. Some women with vaginismus even avoid going to the Doctor for routine medical examinations.... examinations that could prevent serious illness.

Anorgasmia Research suggests that 25% of sexually active women will have a problem reaching orgasm at some stage in their life. A further 25-35% may never have experienced orgasm. Difficulty reaching orgasm during intercourse is the norm. In fact, an estimated 70% of women don’t ever have penetrative orgasms. If you have exhausted all other ways of reaching orgasm, change of position, stimulation with either a finger or vibrator and ruling out medical causes then it is likely that anxiety is the cause.

Loss of Libido There are many reasons for losing the desire for sex, as with all of the above problems it is wise to check with your doctor that there are no physical reasons for it. The most common reasons, however, are lack of self esteem, performance anxiety, sexual boredom, guilt, even the misplaced belief that you are too old to be sexually active.

The following is a testimonial from an EX Vaginismus sufferer........

Where shall I begin, at the beginning I guess? It all started at that time in life when, feeling secure in a relationship, I decided to take it the next step. A sexual relationship. Only there was a problem, I couldn't do it. The thought of sex made me anxious; trying it made me tense up so much, it was impossible. I decided to see my GP and he informed me I had a condition called vaginismus and referred me to a psychosexual counsellor but, after six sessions, nothing had changed. I still couldn’t have sex. It upset me so much that I couldn’t do what was considered by most as normal, that I stopped trying and ignored it. If I didn’t think about it, I didn’t have a problem.

This had now been going on for six years, and after breaking up with my partner I met my current partner. My friends and family had suggested maybe there was an underlying problem within my previous relationship that was the cause; however I never believed this to be the case. My previous partner had been extremely understanding of the situation and it was never the reason we parted. It didn’t stop me having hope that it was the case though. Unfortunately, when the time came in the relationship that is inevitable, nothing had changed. It wasn’t a problem with my partner, it was me. The thought depressed me but I tried to put it to the back of my mind once more.

We had a holiday in Ireland planned and, at the top of a castle, my partner proposed to me and I accepted. I was so happy, but once back home, my demons returned and I began to think of what our future would be. No sex, moreover, no children. I had always said I didn’t want children to anyone that asked, but this simply wasn’t the case. It was just easier than admitting the truth.

Depression soon set in as I thought about it more and more and I returned to my GP. He referred me this time to a counsellor, with the thought that maybe there was something in my past that I either could not remember, or refused to remember. Six sessions later, I had indeed come to term with many issues and felt stronger as a person, but on trying to have sex; that was not one of them. Nothing had changed.

I was back to square on and now had no idea where to go. My GP couldn’t help, a psychosexual counsellor couldn’t help and now, although I felt better within myself, a counsellor hadn’t helped. I decided enough was enough.

I had thought long ago that hypnotherapy may be the answer but convinced myself it was nonsense and forgot about it. I was at a point in my life where I was willing to try anything, so began researching. I went through many websites but only one seemed to shout out to me. Ginny’s site was informative professional but more importantly, she had dealt with vaginismus successfully before and, after talking to Ginny on the phone, we went to see her for a consultation.

We were made to feel relaxed, comfortably but more importantly, Ginny made me feel normal; this wasn’t my fault and I could beat it, but I had to want to. It was down to me at the end of the day to make it work.

After about five sessions I felt stronger in myself; like something had come together in a way it never had before, so we tried to have sex, sorry that is incorrect. We had sex! The emotions I felt were relief, excitement but more importantly, triumph. I had beaten my demons and that was all down to someone I didn’t really know having belief in me that I could do it.

We still have to take it slow, but we have a lifetime together to get it right. I now look forward my future married life and all that it will bring, including children.

I firmly believe that I would never have gotten over this without the help and support that I received from Ginny and my life has changed in ways I never thought possible.

Thank you will never be enough but it is all I can say.