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Vaginismus Where shall I begin, at the beginning I guess? It all started at that time in life when, feeling secure in a relationship, I decided to take it the next step. A sexual relationship. Only there was a problem, I couldn't do it. The thought of sex made me anxious; trying it made me tense up so much, it was impossible. I decided to see my GP and he informed me I had a condition called vaginismus and referred me to a psychosexual counsellor but, after six sessions, nothing had changed. I still couldn’t have sex. It upset me so much that I couldn’t do what was considered by most as normal, that I stopped trying and ignored it. If I didn’t think about it, I didn’t have a problem.

This had now been going on for six years, and after breaking up with my partner I met my current partner. My friends and family had suggested maybe there was an underlying problem within my previous relationship that was the cause; however I never believed this to be the case. My previous partner had been extremely understanding of the situation and it was never the reason we parted. It didn’t stop me having hope that it was the case though. Unfortunately, when the time came in the relationship that is inevitable, nothing had changed. It wasn’t a problem with my partner, it was me. The thought depressed me but I tried to put it to the back of my mind once more.

We had a holiday in Ireland planned and, at the top of a castle, my partner proposed to me and I accepted. I was so happy, but once back home, my demons returned and I began to think of what our future would be. No sex, moreover, no children. I had always said I didn’t want children to anyone that asked, but this simply wasn’t the case. It was just easier than admitting the truth.

Depression soon set in as I thought about it more and more and I returned to my GP. He referred me this time to a counsellor, with the thought that maybe there was something in my past that I either could not remember, or refused to remember. Six sessions later, I had indeed come to term with many issues and felt stronger as a person, but on trying to have sex; that was not one of them. Nothing had changed.

I was back to square on and now had no idea where to go. My GP couldn’t help, a psychosexual counsellor couldn’t help and now, although I felt better within myself, a counsellor hadn’t helped. I decided enough was enough.

I had thought long ago that hypnotherapy may be the answer but convinced myself it was nonsense and forgot about it. I was at a point in my life where I was willing to try anything, so began researching. I went through many websites but only one seemed to shout out to me. Ginny’s site was informative professional but more importantly, she had dealt with vaginismus successfully before and, after talking to Ginny on the phone, we went to see her for a consultation.

We were made to feel relaxed, comfortably but more importantly, Ginny made me feel normal; this wasn’t my fault and I could beat it, but I had to want to. It was down to me at the end of the day to make it work.

After about five sessions I felt stronger in myself; like something had come together in a way it never had before, so we tried to have sex, sorry that is incorrect. We had sex! The emotions I felt were relief, excitement but more importantly, triumph. I had beaten my demons and that was all down to someone I didn’t really know having belief in me that I could do it.

We still have to take it slow, but we have a lifetime together to get it right. I now look forward my future married life and all that it will bring, including children.

I firmly believe that I would never have gotten over this without the help and support that I received from Ginny and my life has changed in ways I never thought possible.

Thank you will never be enough but it is all I can say M

Emetophobia - This letter is from a young lady who made a round trip of about 140 miles or so every week to see me....! she was so determined to rid herself of her phobia of being sick that she would have travelled 10 times that distance - I have reproduced her letter in full in the hope that someone may be reading this and, like her, take that first step to living a normal, happy life again!

It was the early hours of Sunday morning and I couldn’t sleep, I was very tired but too much was running through my mind. So I got up and went downstairs to use the internet. I had decided enough was enough and I needed to try and do something about my problem! So I started searching the web, I had to see if someone else had similar anxiety’s as me.
My problem was a major fear of being sick, pathetic I know, but it really had taken over, it was ruining my life, my relationship was suffering and my social life with family & friends wasn’t as it should be. Last night was my friend’s birthday and a big group of us had been out celebrating at ‘the dogs’. I had never been to ‘the dogs’ so was excited to be there but we were due to eat a meal and this was playing on my mind. I was anxious as I always am when I eat out, somewhere new, not sure who was cooking my food, if they had washed their hands, did they have an illness, my friends would be watching me, telling me I didn’t eat very much, etc etc etc. Then to make matters worse my friend sat next to me and when I greeted her and asked how she was she told me she had just got over a terrible sickness bug…..I froze, I didn’t want to be sitting next to her, my very own friend, I felt terrible, but as she was speaking to me, I felt myself turning away from her, making me feel very rude. All of these thoughts were running around in my head and I found myself unable to enjoy her company. I hated myself and so wanted to enjoy her night with her but I just couldn’t wait to get home. The final straw was when my friend went to the ladies and asked me to hold her bag, I did, but I felt myself wanting to wash my hands immediately, it was like I was holding something infested. I suddenly realised things had got so bad and I knew I had to do something about it.
As soon as I found Ginny’s website I started to smile (cry in fact) with happiness that I wasn’t alone, I had found hope and couldn’t believe my eyes when I read “what an ex-emetophobic has to say about Pure Hypnoanalysis” I could relate to everything this person was saying, I ran and woke my partner (I wouldn’t normally do this, especially early hours of the morning, as he ‘doesn’t do mornings’ but I knew he would be pleased to see what I had found and that I wanted to get help. He actually said that “I could have written that” Well now I can and it really is all thanks to Ginny, she is amazing.
I remember wanting to phone her straight away, but I told myself I couldn’t, it was a Sunday and still very early hours of the morning! So I went back to bed and finally managed to sleep, waking again and wishing the day away, so I could call her first thing on Monday. This may sound strange but as soon as I spoke to Ginny, I felt very close to her, like she was an old family friend. Her voice was very comforting and I explained why I was calling her with no trouble at all and before I knew it I had booked my appointment to see her a few days later. I was like a big kid, so excited and counting down the days!
Ginny made me feel at ease, very relaxed and I instantly trusted her. I am so grateful to have found her website and I honestly recommend her to everyone. I have even told friends that they would benefit from seeing her even if they don’t think they have a problem with anything. Her sessions are great and you learn a lot about yourself. I used to get a feeling that I was looking down on myself and seeing things in a different light, in a better light, with much more understanding.
Thank You Ginny, since my last session I have eaten my first steak. I would never eat steak as the blood I saw on plates had put me off for life (well so I thought) I enjoyed every single mouthful and it was the nicest thing I have ever eaten. Ginny you are amazing and a real life saver, I will always be grateful. - SF June 2010

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Weight Loss - Before I contacted Ginny, I had been to many different Counsellors and Hypnotherapists. I never really felt happy and relaxed to ‘delve too deeply’ with any of them. Each and every time I went , all I wanted to do was to lose weight. After my 1st session with Ginny she realised that there was more to ‘my problem’ than losing weight and told me truthfully that I needed pure hypnoanalysis and the sessions would last approximately 12 weeks. I was told that I could go through the weight loss course (yet again), but it wouldn’t be of any help me. I found it so refreshing to find some-one who was actually up front with me and tell it how it was!

At first I found it a bit strange to ‘free associate’, but after a while I got used to it. Ginny is a wonderfully warm and welcoming person who puts you totally at ease and you don’t worry about what you say to her, knowing full well that it is doing you good. Some of my thoughts were embarrassing or I didn’t know where they came from, but it didn’t matter. All I knew was that I was improving, session by session.

After my sessions with Ginny I can now look back on my childhood without any fears. I feel that my past and bad experiences have been truly dealt with at last! My drinking (which had become out of hand), is now under control. I haven’t lost any weight as yet, but feel it won’t be long before I do. SL - June 2010

I cannot recommend Ginny highly enough. I just wish that I had found her years ago, before I wasted all my time and money getting nowhere.

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Anxiety - Before I started my course of hypnotherapy, I suffered from panic attacks and anxiety which made my life quite difficult, both at home and work. I knew i had to do something to get rid of these awful feelings and dread towards such normal everyday tasks like work.

When a family friend suggested hypnotherapy I couldn't wait to begin, and to get my life back on track again. After my first meeting, I started a 9 session hypnotherapy course. At first it was difficult to free associate as I wanted to hold certain things back, things that I didn't feel were important, or things that were slightly embarrassing, but you made me feel as relaxed as possible, and after a while I started to improve, and started talking about things I'd never mentioned to anyone else before. The relief that followed that was amazing, and at the end of my course, I finally feel like I've reached a stage where I feel that things in my past are dealt with now, and I can move on knowing that those memories/experiences are now laid to rest.

I would definitely recommend hypnotherapy to anyone, and I am so pleased I completed my course, I feel a much better person because of it. I feel like a huge weight has been lifted.

many thanks Ginny

RP Nov 2009

Needle Phobia - Before my course of hypnotherapy I really struggled to go to the doctors for anything that related to needles and internal examinations. Having no confidence in myself seemed to compound the issue and it left me a quivering wreck every time I even contemplated going to the surgery.

I felt that I needed to do something to be rid of this and I was excited to start hypnotherapy. It felt good to take control and after my first consultation with you I felt that I was actually going to be able to do anything. What was my phobia, was going to be gone.

At no point during any of my sessions did I feel like I was being judged, even if what I thought I was free associating sounded silly or embarassing and I still cannot belive how vivid some of the things that came into my mind were. Even the simplest of things that as an adult you cannot believe come to mind are there in perfect colour.

Every week I felt my resolve getting stronger as past events were being passed away, and I know now that nothing can control me other than me. It's funny I even saw a TV programme the other day where a girl was so scared of having an injection she became an emotional mess, and it made me think "I used to be like that" not "I'd be exactly the same".

I am really grateful to you for showing me how I can, I will and I jolly well shall deal with anything and that is brilliant feeling.

I would recommend hypnotherapy to anyone who has ever felt the same way. It really does work.

SA Feb 2010 Social Anxiety, Needle phobia

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Anxiety and Agoraphobia - I thoguht I would send you a quick e-mail just to let you know how I am getting on.

The first week of having no session was a little daunting, and I missed not having a session.

As the weeks have gone on I am getting stronger every day. I am now going out on my own to shops, also taking Megan out on my own and dealing with it very well.

The DREAM technique is amazing, as you said I have had to use it rather alot, but I'm getting there.

College is going well, I haven't managed the BIG FOOD SHOP TO ASDA JUST YET, but who knows maybe one day soon I will manage it.

Neil and I went out at the weekend with relatives to the pub, something else I haven't done in years if I'm honest, but had a bloody brilliant time. KB Sept 2009

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It has been about a year since I came and saw you for Pure Hypnoanalysis all the way from Canada and I thought I'd share some impressions about therapy with you and you website readers one year on.

I saw Ginny for therapy as a requirement to finish my training as an IAPH therapist. Although I knew intellectually what therapy entailed, I would have never been able to imagine how much it would change my life. Having almost died from AIDS in the past, having a positive outlook on life has always been for me what has contributed to my recovery and wellness today.

Before therapy I would have never pegged myself as an anxious person, but as I know full well, no one is devoid of anxiety (before therapy). My life since therapy has been incredible in hindsight, as situations that had previous brought on anxiousness and worry have completely disappeared. It is as if my threshold for the everyday stresses and worries in life have been reset to zero. This therapy added to an already positive attitude has seen me feel the best I have since being diagnosed with AIDS 10 years ago.

Ginny is an incredibly skilled, kind, non-judgmental therapist that I would highly recommend to anyone who wants lasting, empowering change in their lives.

Daniel DesLauriers MIAPH

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Dear Ginny

I just wanted to drop you a line to say thank you so much for your help with my nerves in connection with my wedding.

I do not like to be the centre of attention and in particular do not like to speak in public and therefore had a lot of anxiety about the whole day in general but mainly regarding giving my speech and standing in church saying my vows.

Having met with you and had a session with you, the day went with ease. Although I still felt nervous about the day and still felt the need for a quick drink before proceedings nothing seemed too big or frightening to cope with. In fact I was so relaxed about everything that it was the second day of our honeymoon before I realised that it had “worked”.

I now have fantastic memories of not only my wedding day but also my speech, I was completely relaxed and enjoyed the whole experience – I even got a laugh or two which was brilliant and gave me just enough confidence to get through the first dance.

To think an entire day that to some extent I was dreading, actually was the best day of my life with a little help from you. I cannot thank you enough.

With kind regards,

Yours sincerely
Ian

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I'd love to tell you that I've lost loads of weight.....but of course I'm not on a BLOODY DIET! so why would I weigh myself? What I can tell you is that; - I haven't eaten between meals since the therapy session. Trust me, that never used to happen before - I was on the road yesterday, and bought my lunch when I needed some diesel at 11ish. Normally I would have brought my lunch forward to....11ish, but I didn't eat it until 1ish. Again, it didn't cross my mind to eat before I was hungry. It was totally effortless. - I can't say I've left much food on the plate, but I also don't think I've had enough food to qualify as full, but I certainly don't feel that I need more than the meal - But most importantly, I don't FEEL like I'm a fat person that can't lose weight. Michael from Southampton had Weight control suggestion therapy

As a follow up to the above testimonial, I received this email on the 4th of January 2007!!

Update 7th November 2007

And another update 3rd November 2008

Ginny,

It's now two years since we met and I promised to keep you informed
about my weight loss goals.

I emailed you this time last year (it's my birthday today) when I
weighed 17.8st - too much I know, and now I'm 16 / 16 stone 4 - but I
was 20st plus when I came to you.

I also just ran the Great South Run!

I have no doubt that the sessions with you were absolutely fundamental
in starting this process. So, I'm grateful to you. Michael

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I am a 53 year old female who thought that the anxious, gnawing feeling that I had been carrying around inside me for as long as I can remember was normal! I contacted Ginny for a weight loss concern and, following an in-depth consultation, I discovered that my eating disorder was only really the tip of my 'emotional iceberg'. I decided to embark upon a course of Hypnoanalysis and can only say that during and since completing this therapy many of the health problems I have suffered from most of my life have begun to dissolve. These include virtually constant symptoms of Cystitis, restless leg syndrome and asthma, from which I have suffered since infancy. My interpersonal relationships have improved - I feel happy and complete - I have my life back! EW from Fareham believed that if she could control her weight then life would be so much better..

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C is calmer, his frustrations are clearly around the struggles of life, making the right choices and the group pressures so Normal 15 year old then!!!!!!

The main difference is that his frustrations do not end up in physical damage and violence.
He is identifying his feelings more and more which is good, still very little but previously they were never in the conversation. CF Southampton Blowaway for 15 year old